X-Ftn-To: Seeking Connection 

Seeking Connection  wrote:
>Sometimes people push
>our buttons. Hari-Har has said and i agree with him that it is because
>they are getting defensive and that it would be helpful to see what
>behavior triggered that. I have found that the behavior that triggers
>that is that I have attacked them however gently usually because I am
>angry and didn't communicate it honestly so I was trying to shame
>them. That is my pattern.

I see that everybody is a shrink these days. ;)
Too bad that you don't understand human psychology at all. You see,
getting angry is not the problem. The problem is if you do it in a
dysfunctional way, if you don't vent it out openly and channel it into
some cloak&dagger strategy, or, into self-destruction or a righteous
victim act. If you get angry about some injustice or similar BS, you
can become motivated to do something about it. There are extremely
many things that push my buttons. For instance, the massive
destruction of the planet, or the mean, vicious things that human
beings do to each other every day. It all pisses me off seriously, to
an extend where I dedicate my entire existence to doing something
about it. Also, human stupidity irritates me. I could in fact say that
it's none of my business and walk away, but so far my activities have
changed many lives in a positive way, and I have no intention to
change my behavior. 
So, you can search for your patterns if you like, what do I care. You
can even search your praised Hari for patterns of repressed anger and
denial. There you could actually have some results.

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