I was thinking about the extent to which past trauma and frustrations condition my actions, and whether that is something that should be remedied, or accepted.<\/p>\n
You see, people usually assume that conditioning by trauma is a bad thing, but if you know anything about how neural networks are trained, you would know that trauma is an excellent way to condition a neural network to avoid a certain path. For instance, fall from great height is deadly. In order to avoid death, it would be a good idea to condition oneself to avoid situations that can lead to fall from height. In case of humans, it\u2019s an instinct, hard-wired in our brains from the beginning, as something that is always necessary. Don\u2019t fuck around at heights. Don\u2019t eat foods you never ate before if you\u2019re lost in the woods. Be afraid of the dark. Basically, try to survive long enough that your conscious mind can guide you, but before that, rely on instinct. Also, if you barely survived something, it creates a strong trauma-imprint in order for you to avoid things that might bring you close to such a near-miss in the future. You can see where I\u2019m going there \u2013 fear and trauma can be a very good way not to get poisoned, raped, robbed or killed. It\u2019s much safer for you to be afraid of snakes and spiders, than to handle them. The worst thing that can happen to you if you fear them is fear. The worst thing that can happen if you don\u2019t fear them is death. From the evolution standpoint, fear is preferable, and trauma is a way to store personal experience in actionable, useful form \u2013 if you hit your toe on a rock once and broke it, trauma-caused imprint will make you careful about it in the future. If you got raped in a corn field once because you weren\u2019t afraid to walk alone in the dark through desolate places, trauma will change your dangerous behaviour in a hurry.<\/p>\n
The problem is neither fear nor trauma \u2013 rather, the problem are all those \u201cpositive thinking\u201d nonsense books from America, authored in the 1990s or earlier, where fear, stress or trauma are seen as a philosophical substitute for evil in a worldview that tries very hard to avoid evil as a concept. They thought that, if you removed all trauma-imprints, you will psychologically return to the innocence of childhood which they for some reason see as perfection. I don\u2019t share that opinion, because you know what the difference is between a child and an idiot? A child is younger; that\u2019s all. I don\u2019t wish to be an idiot again, because I worked quite hard to learn what I have, and if I have scars from trauma, they all contain a lesson \u2013 if you do this, you might get wrecked again.<\/p>\n
Sure, sometimes trauma generalises things too much, to the point where very specific bad experience can \u201cpoison the well\u201d in a very broad way that isn\u2019t really helpful \u2013 for instance, you get scared of heights even when it\u2019s pointless and not at all useful. Such things need to be worked on, of course, but if I have traumatic experiences caused by a computer that ran a shitty Win98 OS with too little RAM, and repeatedly froze and crashed when I tried to edit a 300DPI TIFF image for the cover of my first book, and as a result I couldn\u2019t finish the edit in time and I ended up submitting the version that\u2019s not properly sized and text ended up being too close to the margins, and so on? What if those traumatic experiences cause me to over-specify my computers in order to avoid situations of this kind, where the computer runs perfectly fine 99% of the time, but when I need to do some graphics work, it turns out to be unfit and causes me to fail at important tasks? What\u2019s the worst thing that can happen if I listen to my experience and buy over-specced equipment whenever I can? I can waste some money, and that\u2019s it. For 99% of the time, I will have a computer that\u2019s vastly over-specified for the task at hand, but at that instance when I need to prepare a meter-sized high-res photographic print, I will be able to do it without a problem. Also, with cars \u2013 I have trauma caused by cars with insufficiently powerful engines, because my first car had 54HP and overtaking was always scary and dangerous. I also have issues with bad tyres. As a result, I avoid cars that are underpowered or in some other way unsafe, and I try to always have excellent tyres. Again, what exactly is the problem with trauma here? It causes me to spend more money on really important things that prevent dangerous situations? How terrible. \ud83d\ude42 I also have trauma caused by food poisoning that makes me wary of things that caused food poisoning before \u2013 that jar of pickled olives with only a few remaining ones that\u2019s been sitting in the fridge, or that opened cup of sour cream that\u2019s been in the fridge for a week, especially in the summer, and stuff that tastes a bit \u201coff\u201d \u2013 what\u2019s the worst that can happen if I \u201csuccumb to my fears\u201d? I throw away suspicious foods and not get sick? That\u2019s terrible, I must immediately return to childhood where I had no such fears and would eat any kind of toxic garbage including leaked batteries and dog shit. What an ideal state of spiritual perfection that was. \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n
In short, we\u2019ve all been told all kinds of stupid bullshit, and we need to un-learn it all, especially the stuff that came from America, because that\u2019s simply a motherlode of nonsense.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
I was thinking about the extent to which past trauma and frustrations condition my actions, and whether that is something that should be remedied, or accepted. You see, people usually assume that conditioning by trauma is a bad thing, but … Continue reading